Skinny Isn't Healthy {& Other Weighty Issues}

I feel a little afraid to write this blog, but I feel so passionately about it that I’m diving right in. So go brew a strong cup of coffee {like I just did} and read on!

I see every single size of bride in my store. From 00 to 30. I truly, truly believe that brides are beautiful in every single size. I think curvy is real. I think so much pressure is put on all women about the size that’s on the tag. But I want to be real with you for a few minutes. Skinny doesn’t mean healthy, in the same manner that curvy doesn’t mean unhealthy.

This past January this was really shown to me in a real way. You see, I have always joked that I would have a heart attack by the time I was 30. One night last January after working all day even though I really didn’t feel well {you do what you gotta do, as a business owner, amen?}. I ended up being taken to the hospital by ambulance because I couldn’t breathe and lost all feeling and movement in my arms and legs. Turns out I just had pneumonia and stopped getting enough oxygen to my extremities. They said that my heart was fine. But it was the wake up call that I needed. My lifestyle was not healthy in any way. I like chips. Like, a lot. Chocolate and pop’s not bad either. I also drink my own weight in coffee every day. Some days I get home after working until 8PM and realize that I haven’t eaten anything yet today. {Now you see why I’ve been avoiding writing this blog}. I realized that I inherited some really cool things from my father, including his really, really good metabolism. Which basically means I can eat whatever I want and my weight doesn’t really fluctuate. However, my body is not healthy in any means and one day this will catch up to me.

                                                  Owner Erin Bouchard inside Once Upon A Time Weddings

                                                  Owner Erin Bouchard inside Once Upon A Time Weddings

So I have started working out, eating better and taking care of myself, because I now have three kids who I need to keep up with and I really don’t want to have a heart attack by the time I’m 30 or even 60. It’s a slow process. I see all these buff people at the gym and it’s kind of intimidating. I’m over here huffing and buffing after two laps on the track.

Okay, but what does all this personal information have to do with you, the bride? I wish women would stop looking at the size of their gown, and care more about how they feel. Do you have enough energy to do what you want? Do you feel healthy? Don’t look in the mirror and see your imperfections. If you want to lose weight before your wedding or other special occasion, do it to become healthy and happy, not to drop two sizes. Work on changing your lifestyle not just your weight number.

I had a bride in the store last week who said she was having a hard time with her size after having her baby last year and she just wasn’t happy when she looked in the mirror. I took a moment to remind her that her fiance is in love with her now. Every single, little bit of her. Instead of worrying about losing 10-20 pounds, we needed to find a gown that embraced and flattered her curvy, post baby, beautiful body. {which we totally did} There’s a transformation that happens when brides look at themselves as beautiful and confident in their wedding gown, instead of just seeing those last few pounds that need to go.

I love working with curvy brides. I love watching that transformation happen. I think sometimes brides look and only see me as a small sized woman. They don’t know me and so they feel like how could I ever relate and help them, with their curves and all, find the perfect gown. But, if I’m honest, it’s one of my favourite parts of my job. There’s a moment when you know you’re changing someone’s life by helping them find the PERFECT gown for THEIR body, no matter what size they are!

So wherever you are on your journey to healthy, please remember that there’s a huge difference between skinny and healthy. If you decide you want to lose a bit of weight, do it for the right reasons and in the right way. No fad diets or starving yourself. Get moving, get eating the right things and watch what happens not just to your waist, but also to your overall look on life.

If you are a bride with curves or a plus size bride, or whatever you want to call yourself, we’d love to work with you in the store and begin your transformation from curvy to confident! We have gowns in stock right up to a size 26, because we believe every bride should get to try gowns on. We also carry a selection of each silhouette for curvy brides because we don’t feel like you should be limited to the A-Line look if you don’t want to! Because we believe at Once Upon A Time Weddings that real brides have curves… Call 519.245.7997 or visit us at www.onceuponatimeweddings.ca/appointments to book your appointment now! Can’t wait to see all of you!!