We are so excited to be featuring Ashlan as our first Once Upon A Time Weddings Real Bride through the month of February! Ashlan and Paul met through eHarmony, they talked for almost a month online before finally meeting in person and when they finally set up a date to meet they hit a few bumps but didn't let that stop them!
How did the two of you meet?
"Paul and I met through eHarmony. We talked for almost a month through the site before finally meeting in person. Paul actually had to cancel on me the first two times we had planned to get together; once he was stuck in Michigan for work, and the second time he needed to drive a family member out of town. It was so nice to see that family was important to him, even though I was disappointed. We finally got together for our first date on February 17, 2014 - a London Lightning basketball game on Family Day. I still tease him about our first two attempts – I remember sending him a text message that said, “Just remember. Three strikes and you’re out!” (I love baseball!) I guess he took it seriously!"
How'd you know Paul was the one?
"There were a couple of moments that showed me he was the one (besides the first time I made him dinner and he showed up with a 5lb bag of dried liver for my German Shepherd, Luna). When his niece (who lives in England) turned 10, Paul travelled all the way to England overnight to surprise her for her birthday by taking her to a OneDirection concert. It was the sweetest thing I’ve ever witnessed, and you could tell how important that relationship is to her; he loves being an Uncle! I think he was on the ground in England for a total of 18 hours- tell me that doesn’t pull on your heart strings! I also dessert catered a wedding fairly early on into our relationship, and was up for close to three days straight. He was so supportive and understanding; not everyone has the patience to deal with that! I remember one night I was so tired, and I told him that maybe a kiss goodnight would help. At the time, he lived on the complete other side of the city from me, about a 30 minute drive. Sure enough, 30 minutes later – 11:30 at night on a weekday when he had to work the next day – there was a knock on my door and there he was, just for a kiss goodnight. He’s filled my life with little moments of love and affection like that ever since."
How did your fiancé propose? - Ashlan's Point of View-
"In January 2015, Paul's parents were visiting from England for the first time and we took them to Niagara on the Lake for some site seeing and shopping. He knew that Niagara Falls/Niagara on the Lake holds a special place in my heart because it's where my maternal grandmother and grandfather got married and purchased their first home; and I have a very close relationship with them. I love the gazebo on the waterfront, so when our walk took us there, we were looking out at the beautiful frozen water, and when I turned around, there he was on one knee. He had written me the sweetest poem, with "You're my happily ever after" written on the other side. I was crying so hard I said, "ok" instead of "yes!" He still teases me about it to this day. I remember staring at my hand the whole way back to the car – I didn’t care that it was -15 outside and I could barely feel it anymore! It was so exciting to call everyone and share the exciting news on our way home from the car. I keep the poem on my desk at work – it makes me smile every time I see it."
How did you propose? - Paul's Point of View-
"Driving down to Niagara, I felt what I’m sure most guys do – I was excited, but nervous. I couldn’t tell if she knew what was happening or not, and I kept trying to catch her eye without making it obvious. It was good to spend time there; I know she loves Niagara on the Lake and we’re there a lot. I remember it being cold that day, so wearing gloves made things a bit complicated. I decided to leave them in the car, and she kept telling me, “you’re going to get cold!” Clearly, she had no idea! I was worried I was going to drop the ring, so I left it in the box in my coat pocket. But on the walk I remembered that the rings were a set, so the entire time we were walking down to the water, I kept trying to separate the engagement ring from the wedding band and get it out of the box on it’s own without her noticing. Thankfully, it all worked out and she looked so surprised. And she’s right, I do still tease her about saying, “OK”. The day before the wedding I reminded her that she had to say, “I do” in the ceremony for it to be legal, haha! It was also really nice to have my parents there be a part of it all, plus we got photos of it which are nice to look back on."
Next week we'll be talking about how Ashlan said yes to the dress here at Once Upon A Time Weddings!
Photographer: One-12 Photography
Location of Photos: Arrowwood Farm
Dress: Once Upon A Time Weddings
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