Skinny Isn't Healthy {& Other Weighty Issues}

Do you ever feel a bit afraid to do something, yet in your heart you know you need to?   That’s how I feel about writing an article on weight.  So go brew a strong cup of coffee {like I just did} and read on!

As the owner of a bridal store, Once Upon A Time Weddings, I see every single size of bride come walking through my door. From 00 to 30. I truly, truly believe that brides are beautiful in whatever size they are. I think curvy is real. I think a lot of pressure is put on women regarding the size that’s on the tag of their clothes or gown.  I want to be real with you for a few minutes - skinny doesn’t mean healthy, in the same manner that curvy doesn’t mean unhealthy.

This was shown to me in a real way. You see, I have always joked that I would have a heart attack by the time I was 30. One night last January after working all day even though I really didn’t feel well {you do what you gotta do, as a business owner, amen?}, I ended up being taken to the hospital by ambulance because I couldn’t breathe and lost all feeling and movement in my arms and legs. Turns out I just had pneumonia and stopped getting enough oxygen to my extremities. They said that my heart was fine. But it was the wake- up call that I needed - my lifestyle was not healthy in any way. I like chips. Like, a lot. Chocolate and pop is not bad either. I also drink my own weight in coffee every day. Some days I get home after working until 8PM and realize that I haven’t eaten anything yet. {Now you see why I’ve been avoiding writing this blog}. I realized that I inherited some really cool things from my father, including his really, really good metabolism. This basically means I can eat whatever I want and my weight doesn’t really fluctuate.  However, my body is not healthy in any means and one day this will catch up to me.

So I have started working out, eating better and taking care of myself, because I now have kids who I need to keep up with and I really don’t want to have a heart attack by the time I’m 30 or even 60. It’s a slow process. I see all these buff people at the gym and it’s kind of intimidating. I’m over here huffing and puffing after two laps on the track.


Why am I sharing this with you? I wish women would stop looking at the size of their clothes, and care more about how they feel. Do you have enough energy to do what you want? Do you feel healthy? Don’t look in the mirror and see your imperfections. If you want to lose weight before your wedding or other special occasion, do it to become healthy and happy, not to drop two sizes. Work on changing your lifestyle not just your weight number.

I had a bride in the store last week who said she was having a hard time with her size after having her baby last year and she wasn’t happy when she looked in the mirror. I took a moment to remind her that her fiance is in love with her now. Every single, little bit of her. Instead of worrying about losing 10-20 pounds, we needed to find a gown that embraced and flattered her curvy, post baby, beautiful body {which we totally did}. There’s a transformation that happens when brides look at themselves as beautiful and confident in their wedding gown, instead of just seeing those last few pounds that need to go.

I love working with curvy brides. I love watching that transformation happen. I think sometimes brides look and only see me as a small sized woman. They don’t know me and so they feel like how could I ever relate and help them, with their curves and all find the perfect gown. But, if I’m honest, it’s one of my favourite parts of my job. There’s a moment when you know you’re changing someone’s life by helping them find the PERFECT gown for THEIR body, no matter what size they are!

So wherever you are on your journey to healthy, please remember that there’s a huge difference between skinny and healthy. If you decide you want to lose a bit of weight, do it for the right reasons and in the right way. Stay away from fad diets or starving yourself. Get moving, get eating the right things and watch what happens not just to your waist, but also to your overall look on life.

This Article Written By:

Erin Bouchard Owner of Once Upon A Time Weddings