How to be the most kick-butt bridesmaid!

Being a bridesmaid can be tough. And it’s easy to get caught up in your own excitement and forget what your role as a maid is. So today on the blog, owner of Once Upon A Time Weddings, Erin Bouchard is sharing her 5 tips to being the best bridesmaids a bride can ask for.

  1. Remember it’s about the bride.

This day is for the bride. Shopping for a gown is for the bride. The bachelorette is for the bride. Remember that there is a difference between giving your opinion and enforcing your way. Share ideas but make sure you listen more to the bride’s ideas. So often in bridal appointments we hear friends giving their opinion is a degrading way. “Well I don’t like that gown at all, but that’s just me.” Most brides will not be able to hear someone say they hate their gown and still purchase it. Think about how you say things. You could try saying something like, “Well this isn’t my personal style, but you do look beautiful in it.”

2. Show up.

Don’t leave your girl hanging. If you say you’ll be somewhere, be there. If you’re running late, text or call and give an update. Be there for all the important things - showers, bachelorette, fittings, etc. Get all the dates in your calendar and make it a priority.

 Photograph by  Chris Sit Photography.

3. Ask the bride what you can do to help.

She likely has a whole list of things she is wanting help with. So ask her regularly. Check in with her on progress on tasks. Be as helpful as you can.

4. Don’t complain.

This should be a given. Don’t complain to the bride. But also don’t be complaining to other members of the wedding party. It may get back to the bride and no one needs that much negativity. Show enthusiasm.

5. Follow through on what you say you will do.

If you say you’ll get your dress ordered by a certain date, then do it. If you say you’ll come over to stuff invitations, do it. Brides have enough stress to worry about, that they don’t need to also be tracking you down to finish your tasks.


Bonus Tip: Have fun. Being in a wedding should be fun and exciting. Be respectful of your bride, yes. But also do some fun things with your bride. Whisk her away to the movies or gift her a gift card to a restaurant. Tell her that her only to do task at the dinner is to not talk about the wedding. Give her some stressful moments during a stressful time.


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