love your spouse

A Love that Survives.

You guys, I just had the most adorable encounter today.  A service technician was here to inspect my fire extinguisher {oh the glamourous parts of owning a business}.  He was telling me that he & his wife are celebrating their 30th anniversary this month & he’s taking her to Ireland on Monday.  #relationshipgoals 

This got me thinking about love & marriage.  You guys it’s a lot easier to fall in love than to stay in love.  To fall madly, deeply in love with someone.  So much so, that you decide to spend the rest of your lives together.  Man, that kind of love is exciting.  It leaves you feeling all tingly inside.  But those feelings kind of fade after a bit.  Real love, the kind that lasts thirty years and has you all excited about a trip to Ireland with your wife, it’s a bit different.  It actually takes work.  It means waking up every day dedicated to your relationship.  It means putting someone else first, when what you really want to do it put yourself first.  It means realizing that your spouse’s needs are different than yours.  And then waking up the next day and learning those lessons all over again {we can be a bit of a slow learner sometimes cant we}.  It means choosing to stay faithful to the one you chose.  It’s not all glamourous and Instagram worthy.  It’s real.  It’s messy.  It’s beautiful.

I adore that we get to be part of so many love stories.  That so many magical experiences happen right here at Once Upon A Time Weddings.  But long after that magic feeling starts to fade, I hope you realize that there is a love so much greater.  A relationship so much deeper.  If you’re stuck in a rut or feeling like this isn’t the fairytale you imagined, hang in there.  Do the work.  Love your spouse deeply.  Make a renewed commitment to your relationship.  A true relationship doesn’t just happen, it takes love, patience and forgiveness.

For those of you not yet married and still in the planning, exciting stages.  Soak it in.  Live every moment. But spend time preparing for the marriage and not just the wedding day.

I’ll get off my soapbox now.

XO Erin.